Parents often aim to teach their children good manners by encouraging them to say “please” and “thank you.” However, a recent study published in The Journal of Positive Psychology suggests that these simple words of gratitude from children can have a significant impact on parental well-being and stress levels.
The study involved 593 parents of children between the ages of 4 and 17 who were either married or in romantic relationships. The findings revealed that expressions of gratitude from children, regardless of their age, were associated with lower levels of parental stress. Interestingly, the study also found that mothers tended to be more affected by expressions of gratitude from their children than fathers.
According to Dr. Rajasekhar Kannali, a child and adolescent psychiatrist, gratitude can reduce stress for parents by providing a sense of affirmation and strengthening the parent-child bond. When children express gratitude, it helps parents feel valued and appreciated for their efforts and sacrifices, ultimately fostering a more positive outlook on parenting.
Furthermore, when parents feel acknowledged and appreciated, they are more likely to be motivated and engaged in their role, leading to happier interactions and a more fulfilling family environment. Gratitude creates a positive feedback loop that benefits both children and parents by fostering a culture of appreciation and emotional connection.
Psychotherapist Mia Rosenberg suggests that gratitude from children helps parents feel less stressed and more appreciated because it shows that the child cares. By modeling appreciation and gratitude to children, parents can instill the value of appreciating gifts and acts of kindness. Instilling gratitude as a core life trait in children can have a lasting impact on their overall well-being and relationships.
Dr. Kannali recommends strategies such as discussing feelings, encouraging empathy, celebrating efforts, creating gratitude rituals, and modeling gratitude to help children cultivate a genuine sense of gratitude beyond mere polite expressions. These actions can nurture a lifelong appreciation for people and experiences, ultimately leading to happier and more fulfilling relationships.
In conclusion, the simple act of expressing gratitude can have a profound impact on parental happiness and stress levels. By teaching children the importance of gratitude and appreciation, parents can create a more positive and harmonious family dynamic that benefits both children and parents alike.
